AOD # 8 - Journal

Creative Conflict - confronting others in ways that produce growth

It took place in my dance class the week before Thanksgiving. My friend J(trying not to mention the name) was very upset. She said that she had been trying out for 3 years for the dance team, but they never pick her and this year they started a team that eveyone can join without try out. This team is going to learn two dances, and one of the dance that girls get to lift up by the boys and another dance does not. My friend is so mad and sad including other girls who are not picked to do the dance with lifting.

J kept saying that, " it must be my wieght, and see those girls who get picked are skinny and pretty." And other girl who ( little and skinny) were not picked were starting to say IT IS NOT FAIR. So I told them that, " Why? Come on. Don't be so emotional. See, I have a smile on my face, and I am glad that I am not doing that dance. Give me a smile." I was trying them convince them that doing those moves in that dance are a little dangerous. You could hurt your arms, legs or your back if you don't do it right. And of course like me, I know it would be hard for guys to lift me up, so I am glad that I am not in it and don't have to worry about it too. So I was trying to make them feel better and learn how to ecpect the result because this is a all year long class, you can bring a sad face to class every time. A few days later, I aked my friend how she feels about it now, and she told that she is ok with it now. And I was glad to hear that.